What to get someone who has lost their dog

When someone you care about loses their dog, the kindest thing you can give is the sense that their grief is understood. A short card, a meal or a keepsake that remembers the dog by name usually means more than anything expensive. Here are some ideas, and what to write.

What to write in a card

Use the dog's name. Share a memory if you have one: the way they greeted you at the door, or how they always found the sunniest spot. Keep it simple and avoid telling them how to feel. Something like "I'm so sorry about Bramble. She was such a gentle soul, and she was lucky to have you" is enough.

Small, practical kindnesses

• A meal left on the doorstep, so they do not have to cook.

• An offer of a walk together, at the time they used to walk their dog. The first walks alone are often the hardest.

• Help with the things they may not want to face, like returning unused food or medicine.

Keepsakes that remember the dog

• Something to plant: a rose, a tree or a packet of wildflower seeds for a favourite walk.

• A donation in the dog's name to a rescue or rehoming charity.

• A portrait from a photo. A memorial portrait from a photo they love, with the dog's name and, if they would like, the years beneath it. If you are ordering as a surprise, ask a mutual friend for a photo, and send us the best one you can find.

A gentle word on timing

Some people want to talk about their dog straight away; others need time. A card or message soon after lets them know you care. A keepsake can wait a few weeks, and often lands better when the first rush of messages has passed. Remembering the anniversary, a year on, is a kindness few people expect and many never forget.